for the single ladies

its a wedding year for most of my school friends my batch. as i can see from fbs their wedding photos, their best romantic speech, i am happy :). but then, as a single lady at the age of 24, i can't stop myself from having the thought of "when will my time comes". so this entry is going to be dedicated to every single ladies who have the same thought as mine.

firstly, u are worth it. u might think that u are being single because u are not pretty enough,smart enough, fun enough, stylish enough, and the list goes on. trust me when i say this, u are the best u can be. and if u can't see past your weakness and look through your strength, then you are just going to be not enough for yourself.

secondly,each one of us is made a pair. its either we found him now, in this life, or later, in the afterlife. so we have to have this strong faith and redha.

thirdly, we can exist in this world without men. i'm not saying we don't need men, we do, it is fitrah manusia. but if we don't have them in our life now, never ever felt that u are weak or incomplete. because Allah will never test His servant with something the servant can't cope.

fourthly, never ever be with someone that u know is not good for you but u HAVE to be with him because u are afraid to be alone. its a big mistake trying to make your head thinks that the feeling will develop and u can put aside everything that is not good about him. i'm not asking u to be choosy, but then, u can make your own choice, its your life, but never ever make a choice out of fear. you will never be alone in this world as long as you have your faith, your family and your friends.

fifthly, we are living in this world now where there are more women than men, as it is already akhir zaman. so, if you are not married, don't even think about the word "andartu". what we should do then? pray and doa for Allah to give us a chance and bring our jodoh near to us, and may this jodoh is the best for us.

i'm not perfect, and i'm not saying it is easy me living this life. i have my own needs, and the desire to become a mother. but as someone used to tell me,God will not give us something that we want, but He will give us something that we need. we tend to overlook the things we need because we want something else so badly.

well, we also have to work for our jodoh. how to do it? make friends. open up yourself to a possibility that you will have someone in your life and be the best person you can be.

lastly,always believe in the timing of God.